I hate being told what to do and usually I will do the opposite. So where on earth did I get the belief that I know what is right and that I must make sure I tell everyone what to do to stay healthy? Why did I do it for so long? How did I not realise that it does not work? I suppose that I went into nursing because I wanted to help people. Well, that is what you tell them at interview, and I guess I really meant it. Indeed, for about 25 years I did tell people what to do to avoid ill health, and then I found the answer.